BEFORE YOU BEGIN
Is it right for us?
Because you’ll work through the framework together at home, Better At Us won’t be right for every relationship or every situation. The guidance below will help you consider whether it’s likely to suit you and your relationship.
If you’re interested in Better At Us, the first step is a free 30-minute call with me. You can find out everything you need to know, ask any questions you have and we can consider whether Better At Us is suitable for you and your relationship.
There is no obligation to proceed after the call.
THINGS TO CONSIDER
Does Better At Us suit your relationship?
1.
IT MAY BE RIGHT FOR YOU IF...
- You value your relationship and want to make it stronger, closer or even better.
- You generally get on well but find yourselves getting stuck in the same arguments, difficulties or patterns.
- You’re both willing to think about the part you each play in what happens between you.
- You want to understand yourselves and each other better, rather than focus on who is right or wrong.
- You’re open to learning practical ways to communicate better, resolve differences and understand what each of you needs.
- You’d like to strengthen your emotional and physical intimacy and build skills that help protect your relationship for the future.
2.
IT MAY NOT BE RIGHT FOR YOU IF...
- Your relationship is currently in crisis, one of you is seriously considering leaving, or there is significant unresolved hurt or betrayal.
- Strong emotional reactions regularly make it difficult or impossible for you to work through things together.
- Only one of you wants to take part, or one of you is unwilling to consider the part you each play in the relationship.
- Fear, intimidation, coercion, controlling behaviour, an ongoing affair, or feeling unsafe forms part of your current relationship.
- Alcohol or drug use is affecting your ability to engage safely and constructively with each other.
- Either of you is currently having individual or couples therapy, receiving treatment for a condition that may affect your ability to take part, or has difficulties that could make working through the framework difficult without additional support. Please discuss this with me during your initial call and, where appropriate, with your therapist or doctor.
THE QUESTIONS
FAQs
What if we struggle to turn what we learn into new behaviours?
If you struggle with any part of the framework, you can contact me. I’ll help you understand what is getting in the way and guide you through how to approach it differently.
If it would help, we can work through it together live by video, just as I would with a face-to-face client.
What if we constantly argue but don’t solve anything?
Arguing doesn’t necessarily mean Better At Us isn’t right for you. What matters is whether, even when things become difficult, you’re both able to stay in the conversation or come back to it afterwards and continue working things through.
If one or both of you regularly becomes so triggered that conversations end and you’re unable to return to them, another form of support may be more appropriate.
If you’re unsure, we can talk about this during your free 30-minute call and decide whether Better At Us is right for your needs.
What if my partner is less enthusiastic than me?
It doesn’t matter if one of you is more enthusiastic than the other. What matters is that you’re both willing to try and engage with the work.
If your partner starts but later decides not to continue, you can still carry on learning and developing the knowledge and skills yourself. You can bring what you learn into your relationship, although your partner won’t have had the same opportunity to understand and practise it themselves.
What does being in a “crisis” mean?
A relationship may be in crisis if either of you is uncertain whether you want to remain together, or if what needs resolving feels too difficult to work through without a professional present.
In those circumstances, Better At Us may not be the right form of support at that point in your relationship.
Can this really work?
Everything in Better At Us comes from what I’ve learned over more than 15 years and the work I do with couples in my face-to-face practice.
My face-to-face clients work with the same relationship knowledge, practical skills and exercises. The main difference is that they receive what is relevant to them as we work together over time, whereas you receive the complete framework from the beginning.
And you’re not simply left with the materials. You receive my professional guidance too, and if you get stuck, you can contact me.
Better At Us gives you the opportunity to do much of the same work yourselves at home, with professional support when you need it.
£395 / £495
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